Other People’s Happiness is Not Your Job

It’s great to be a source of positivity and upliftment to others but remember these things:

🎯YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHER PEOPLE’S FEELINGS — THEY ARE.

🎯NO ONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR FEELINGS — ONLY YOU ARE.

When you make yourself responsible for other people’s happiness you:

👉🏽 over-function and drain your own energy trying to control the uncontrollable

👉🏽 set yourself up for a never-ending treadmill, vigilantly watching other’s emotions

👉🏽 distract yourself from your own emotional healing and grounding

👉🏽 become reliant on others to feel good in order for you to feel good

👉🏽 may invalidate their feelings as you try to ‘cheer them up’

👉🏽 miss out on an opportunity to practice holding space and being present

👉🏽 unintentionally teach others to be overly reliant on you

👉🏽 unintentionally send them a message that they can’t take care of themselves

👉🏽 get a temporary ‘ego fix’ from being needed but miss out on your authentic self

It’s hard to see those we care about struggling but, when we learn how and when to help, and when to just hold space, we create an environment where balance, resilience, and trust can grow which benefits everyone.

You can be there for others without being ‘their keeper’.

Keep yourself :)

One of the best ways to spread happiness is to be an example of it, responding mindfully and seeing the strength in others ❤